Kids are a gift. No doubt in my mind.
But. When they're struggling with stuff they can't figure out themselves. They express emotions that we adults feel inconvenienced by at times.
Think about the person you trust most in your life. The person you feel most drawn to. Now, would you feel comfortable expressing your pain and frustration when you're struggling? Would you feel vulnerable with them? Why not? Do they make you feel safe? Whatever it is you've got, they can handle it - is that what you picture?
Let's be that person for our kids. They need us to help them deal with stuff.
If kids could do well, they would do well. Let's give them a chance. Like our trusted person would give us a chance, unconditionally.
I'd like to share 3 of my favourite concepts that helps me to help my kids figure out tricky problems and how to go about solving them.
I hope it blesses you and helps you and your kids do well together.
Sometimes kids have a hard time talking to you about things when they need the most help. Learn to use emotional intelligence and empathic connection to gain co-operation without the friction.