I'm not parenting. I'm surviving; and it feels like crap

Uncategorized Aug 18, 2025

If you're raising an anxious or sensitive child, some days don't feel like parenting at all.

The constant never ending to do list ticking. Does anyone notice?

You love your kids fiercely but you're running on empty. And don't get me started on the guilt.

Perhaps you're snapping at the smallest things or maybe you're withdrawing and hiding because you simply feel tapped out.

Sometimes you move through the day on autopilot, doing all the tasks without really being there. Your body is here but inside you feel numb.

Your nervous system is trying to cope with constant stress, like a phone on low-power mode.

Screenshot. Credit. Survivor, reality TV show.

Small, consistent shifts can help you come back online. And feel like you're able to connect again with your kids.

Try this.

Name it. Call it out. e.g."I'm on autopilot right now," or "I feel numb," brings awareness without judgement. Simple observation can be the first step to shifting out of it.
Lower the bar. Instead of aiming for perfect, aim for one small connection: a smile, a touch, a shared laugh. It's enough.
Borrow your child’s pace. Anxious or sensitive kids often move slowly or intensely. Match their rhythm, even briefly. This can pull you out of autopilot and into the present moment.
Micro-rituals. A two-minute snug, a silly handshake, or a quick "what was the weirdest part of your day?" question at dinner adds warmth back into your day without adding more pressure.
Accept support. Reach out to a partner, friend, or professional. Parenting isn't meant to be done alone.

So, if you're feeling at a loss. Re-start. Find just one moment. One flash of connection for them and for you.