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🤯 2024 Broke Me... But THIS Unexpected Strategy Saved My Family (and My Sanity!) 🤯

Navigating the Undercurrents: Parenting Through the Turbulence of 2024

2024 was a year that tested me. The relentless bombings from my work life coupled with the ever-present demands of family, often left me feeling adrift in a sea of exhaustion. There were days when the weight of it all threatened to pull me under.

But parenting (or perhaps my children?), it seems, was a life vest that refuses to let go - it just took me a while to figure out that they were more of a life vest than a weight in 2024. Even when my own strength faltered, the needs of my children kept me afloat. And in the struggle to stay above water, I discovered a deeper understanding of resilience – not as a triumphant return to shore, but as a relentless navigation of the undercurrents.

Resilience wasn't about erasing the impact of the storm; it was about charting a new course through the choppy waters. It was about making deliberate choices, even when my inner compass spun wildly.

Intentionality as an Anchor

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The Difference between Risk and Uncertainty: Tightrope Walking

Risk and uncertainty are two different beasts, yet our brains often lump them together. Our minds detest uncertainty.

Perhaps by learning to distinguish between the two, we can take up better control of our anxiety.

Understanding the real risks in any situation and accepting that uncertainty is a part of life is crucial. Step back, evaluate the risk, assign it a value—low or high—and manage it as best you can.

I think this approach helps us handle uncertainty in a more grounded way, keeping anxiety at bay instead of letting it overwhelm us...hopefully. I've worked with this a bit personally and in clinic...it does kinda help a bit.

Imagine the tightrope walker as a child dealing with anxiety—balancing on that rope represents their struggle to manage their fears and uncertainties. The safety net below is like the support system we create for them, ensuring they don’t fall too far if things get tough -sometimes we appraise risk incorrectly and believe we will fall and this will be ...

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Why Your Kids Are More Anxious Than Ever (And How to Fix It!)

anxiety religion Oct 07, 2024

I know why kids are struggling more than ever with anxiety. Is it arrogance to say such things? Maybe... but hear me out.

 

Punch line first.

 

It's our modern world—a mix of digital overload, academic pressure, and societal expectations. But there's good news.

 

Elaboration now.

 

I think I know the answer. [Insert Hubris Here].

 

The Shifting Sands of Religion

 

First, let's talk about the decline of traditional religion. Before you get excited, I'm not saying this is the reason why we're not doing well. This shift isn't inherently good or bad; in my view, the decline is simply a reflection of the times. A function of detachable attachment. What? Stick with me.

 

With globalisation, scientific advancements, and a cultural move towards individualism, many young people are stepping away from organised religion. I think young people are less sticky these days. 

 

So, where are kids finding their sense of purpose these days? Let's break it down:

 

1. Social and Environm...

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A Simple Method for Dealing with Anxiety and Emotional Upheaval

anxiety Sep 24, 2024

Anxiety in children is more common than many of us realise.

 

According to the CDC, about 9.4% of children aged 3-17 years have been diagnosed with anxiety. That's roughly 5.8 million children in the U.S. alone. Comorbidity: About 37.9% of children with anxiety also have behaviour problems, and 32.3% also have depression

 

If you're a parent, these numbers might feel overwhelming, but understanding and managing your child's anxiety can make a significant difference.

 

Here are the steps to one systematic approach that I've 'designed':

 

ENTER the HEATMAP

 

Step 1: Track Anxiety Episodes

The first step in managing anxiety is to track it. Creating a log to record anxiety episodes can help you identify patterns and triggers. Here's what to include in your log:

- Date and Time: When did the episode occur?

- Location: Where was your child?

- Who was present: Who else was there?

- Situation/Context: What was happening?

- Intensity: Rate the episode (mild, moderate, severe).

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Why 1 in 5 Kids Are Anxious: The Shocking Truth Every Parent Needs to Know!

anxiety tips Sep 12, 2024

Did you know that anxiety among children has nearly doubled in recent years? According to a meta-analysis, 20.5% of youth worldwide now struggle with anxiety symptoms. That’s 1 in 5 kids! Today, I want to share some practical strategies to help your child understand and articulate their feelings of anxiety, especially if they are hard to engage.

 

Let’s start with a real-life example. Recently, I took a risk with a 15-year-old gamer who played video games for about 7 hours a day and only spent 2 hours on school work. Instead of confronting him about his school work, I asked, “Why aren’t you playing more video games?” I know, I know how that sounds, but bear with me. This unexpected question disarmed him and opened the door for a more meaningful conversation. Why I did this, I find hard to explain. I took a risk. I don’t recommend that unless you are able to connect with someone and empathise (Will Graham style)

 

 

 

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