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Knowledge is power, but only wisdom is liberty - Will Durant

How do I stop being overwhelmed by my emotions?

Sometimes we make impulsive decisions in the heat of the moment when our lizard brains get far too ferocious. It's not all our fault, we were designed so that our limbic systems kick into gear when we sense threat or danger in the environment. 

 

But sometimes we need a wizard to keep our lizard brain in check. We need a wizard to be able to assess threat with a little more nuance so we're not making decisions that we might regret later. 

 

Of course, it's important that our lizard brain helps us to stay away from danger or deal with danger if it is imminent. But sometimes we use our lizard brain too much when we're making decisions in the future, and we over-estimate threat; that's when our wizard brain is more useful. 

 

The reality is that we need both lizard and wizard. But i think it's better that the ol' wizard is riding the lizard than the other way around!

 

Tune in to Episode 7 of the Huddle Wisdom Podcast where I talk about this a bit...

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How do we deal with plateaus and make progress?

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How do we deal with plateaus and make progress?
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There are no straight lines in life. Well. Not from my perspective anyways, if that counts for anything.
 
 
When we chart our own progress with anything; it's helpful to take a top down view. We tend to see things linearly if we don't and any set back or regression (which is normal) might be seen as a failing or a move backwards; and we feel disheartened. BUT, it's entirely normal for growth to be more of a wiggly trendline. It's just that we notice the dips more than the tops because we're designed to sense something threatening and focus our attention on that; such as a regression being threatening to our integrity/ego.
 
 
So next time you're feeling bummed about your apparent lack of progress, just look back and see how far you've come. Recognise that life is not a straight line. There are always ups and downs. Zooming out, take a birds eye view of your progress. It helps us get away from selective bias in our thinking. 
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How do I stop playing the victim?

Attributing outcomes to individual strength or flaws is problematic if we don't learn to recognise the role of circumstances and the complex interactional factors in life that lead to said outcomes.
 
 
If we can learn to appreciate the role that the system plays in individual choices, I think this could help us break unhelpful and automatic biased thinking patterns. Perhaps the key to making better decisions is to learn how to think more systemically rather than individualistically.
 
 
I talk about this in more detail on the Huddle Wisdom Podcast; and I recommend tuning in to Episode 9 ('Stop blaming and Complaining). Stop blaming. Just live.
 
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