Parenting for Anxious Children: Easy Self-Paced Program that Brings Big Change

The Huddle Wisdom Blog: For Parents of Anxious & Sensitive Kids

Expert guidance and real-world reflections from a child psychiatrist who’s also a parent.

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Authenticity in Parenting: The Balance Between Play and Self-Care

 Ah, the modern parent’s dilemma: to play or not to play?

We’re constantly bombarded with the notion that we must be perpetually engaged and playful with our children. Let’s face it, sometimes the thought of another round of hide-and-seek is about as appealing as doing your tax returns.

It’s perfectly normal not to feel like playing all the time. It’s okay to not be a human jungle gym 24/7.

Self-Compassion: The Unsung Hero

One of the pearls of wisdom I’ve gathered from my practice is the importance of self-compassion. Parents, especially those juggling ADHD, anxiety, and other mental health conditions, often push themselves to meet every perceived obligation. But being true to your authentic self will recharge you, allowing you to be genuinely playful when the time is right. Taking care of yourself so you can actually enjoy playing with your kids? Revolutionary, isn’t it? But hang on...this is not me giving you permission to jettison your parental obligations either. Balanc...

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Unmasking the Icebergs: Supporting Anxious and Neurodivergent Children

Uncategorized Aug 05, 2024

Imagine a child who is reserved and respectful in school, but at home, they become a storm of emotions. This scenario is typical for both anxious and neurodivergent children who often go unnoticed in educational settings. They are like submerged icebergs, with their challenges hidden beneath the surface, unseen by those unfamiliar with their condition.

These children frequently employ a technique known as ‘masking’, where they exert a significant amount of mental effort to conceal their difficulties. Sometimes it’s a deliberate attempt; other times, it’s an automatic defence mechanism. Their goal? To fit in, to appear ‘ordinary’, to prevent themselves from being singled out.

Regrettably, both anxious and neurodivergent children are more susceptible to mental health problems. So, how can we assist them? Let’s delve into some strategies.

Creating Pathways of Empathy

First and foremost, we need to foster transparent communication between parents and educators. Parents should fee

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Weathering the Storm: Understanding and Managing Teenage Meltdowns

Uncategorized Aug 03, 2024

In my EBOOK “Weathering the Storm: Understanding and Managing Teenage Meltdowns,” you’ll discover practical strategies and insights to help you navigate the turbulent waters of teenage emotions. Written in clear and accessible English, with a translation available in Chinese, this book is a valuable resource for parents, teachers, and anyone working with teenagers.

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Explore the concept of ‘emotional storms’ and learn how to identify triggers, implement effective coping strategies, and prevent meltdowns before they start. With real-life examples and a focus on empathy and mindfulness, this book provides a comprehensive framework for supporting teenagers through their most challenging moments.

As a special bonus, you’ll also receive “Understanding and Navigating Meltdowns,” a companion guide that delves deeper into the causes and solutions for emotional outbursts. Together, these books offer a holistic approach to fostering resilience and emotional well-bein...

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You fail a lot. It hurts. But it's also why you will succeed

failure learning success Aug 02, 2024

End of the month reflections

I've had a few patients who haven't been improving as quickly as I'd hoped, and it doesn't feel good. I've felt like a failure, and I thought it might be useful to share my reflections.

We often have lopsided priorities, focusing so intensely on one aspect of life that we neglect others. My relentless pursuit of perfection puts me at risk of burnout and feeling like I've fallen short as a human being. I know I can lean too hard on achieving that elusive goal of perfection.

As I say this, I realize many people feel the same way.

We all struggle intensely with things we don't like about ourselves and often act in ways that maintain those very concerns. For example, constantly checking if others respect us can intensify our unhappiness because we hyperfocus on signs that they don't. Or we avoid situations that make us uncomfortable, so we don't have to face our fears, leaving them unchallenged.

Feeling like we're terrible doesn't actually mean we are terr...

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Conquer School Anxiety: A Must-Read eBook for Parents

Are you a parent grappling with your child’s school anxiety? Do you feel helpless, not knowing how to support your child? If so, we have something that might just be the solution you’ve been searching for.

I'm are thrilled to introduce our eBook, “Conquering School Anxiety”. It's FREE!

This comprehensive guide is the culmination of extensive research and practical strategies designed to help parents like you navigate the challenging landscape of school anxiety.

What’s Inside?

“Conquering School Anxiety” offers a wealth of knowledge and practical advice:

  • Understanding Anxiety: Gain a deeper understanding of what your child is going through. Learn about the different types of anxiety and their triggers.

  • Effective Communication: Discover how to communicate effectively with your anxious child, fostering an environment of trust and empathy.

  • Collaborating with Schools: Learn how to work with your child’s school to create a safe and supportive environment.

  • Practi...

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Building Resilience Through Bedtime Stories

 

Growing up, I often heard stories about my parents’ journey as immigrants. They faced countless hardships, from language barriers to financial struggles, yet they never gave up. Their unwavering determination and resilience were driven by a single goal: to provide a better future for their children. Even when the chips were down, they persevered, teaching me the invaluable lesson that resilience and perseverance can lead to success. Inspired by their journey, I strive to instill these same values in my own children. One delightful and effective method is through bedtime stories. Here are some wonderful books that can teach children about resilience while making bedtime a cherished ritual.

1. “The Most Magnificent Thing” by Ashley Spires

This charming picture book tells the story of a girl who sets out to create the most magnificent thing but faces numerous challenges along the way. It teaches children about perseverance and the importance of not giving up.

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Unravelling Childhood Anxiety: Causes, Triggers and Management

Uncategorized Jul 22, 2024

 What are the factors that cause anxiety to spike in children? Thank you to Tara Janu on LinkedIn for suggesting this topic.

Exploring the Factors that Cause Anxiety in Children

Anxiety is a common emotion experienced by everyone, including children. However, when it starts to interfere with a child’s daily life, it becomes a real concern. As parents we can feel somewhat helpless and a little lost at times because anxiety manifested in myriad ways can be confounding. 

Anxiety in children is essentially a response to perceived threats or imagined threats and of course real threats (so it is a natural thing). It’s a normal part of growing up, indicating that children are beginning to understand the world around them and their limits. But when these fears or worries become too intense, persist longer than usual, or disrupt their life for more than six months, it could indicate an anxiety disorder - it's important that you are able to get help from folks you trust in your communi...

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Understanding and Supporting Anxious, Sensitive, and Perfectionist Children

adler anxiety perfectionism Jul 21, 2024

A confusing scene:

 

Evan had spent the entire day working on a wooden box, carefully etching an intricate dragon onto the lid. His mother, seeing the finished product, was amazed. “Evan, this is incredible! I didn’t know you could do that!” she exclaimed with genuine admiration. To her surprise, Evan scowled and shouted, “Shut up! It’s rubbish! I hate you!” He then threw the box across the room, where it shattered against the wall. Huh? What just happened?

 

Ah, the joys of parenting.

 

What’s Going On?

Evan’s reaction illustrates a common trait among perfectionist children: an inability to accept praise and harsh self-criticism. These children often equate their self-worth with their accomplishments, and any perceived imperfection can trigger intense frustration. Some may even avoid completing tasks or trying new things to evade potential failure. No amount of praise will encourage Evan; he must be perfect. Praise only adds to his belief that people do not understand him. We n...

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Top Parenting Books for Montessori Parents with Anxious Sensitive Kids

As we journey through the world of parenting, we often find ourselves navigating uncharted territories. One such territory is understanding and supporting our anxious children. Anxiety can manifest in many ways and each child experiences it differently. It’s our role as parents to provide a safe, understanding, and nurturing environment for our children to thrive.

In this blog post, we will explore some valuable resources that can guide us in this journey. These books offer a wealth of knowledge from experts in child development, education, and psychology. They provide practical strategies, insights, and a deeper understanding of how to support our anxious children.

From the Montessori approach to positive discipline, these books cover a wide range of topics that are relevant to our experiences as parents. Whether you’re new to parenting or have years of experience, these resources can provide fresh perspectives and effective strategies to help you support your chil

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Society Gets the Criminals It Deserves: A Call for Change

Whilst the prospect may seem daunting, it is essential to confront the stark realities that we, and our children, are being steered towards - a world teeming with profound pain, tragedy, and horror. I may appear as a harbinger of doom, ceaselessly alerting about an imminent crisis. My concerns might be dismissed as hyperbole, but I am merely amplifying the sentiments of my spirit animal, Dr. Alexandre Lacassagne.

 

Dr. Alexandre Lacassagne, a trailblazer in forensic science, astutely observed, “Justice withers, prison corrupts, and society gets the criminals it deserves.” This insightful statement, articulated over a century ago, echoes louder today. As we scrutinise our environment, it becomes clear that the social determinants of crime and mental illness are closely intertwined, and our current systems fall short in addressing these fundamental issues.

 

I am convinced that it is only a matter of time before the younger generation grapples with significant challenges.

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