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Empathising with Sibling Rivalry: Tips for Effective Discipline

Uncategorized Feb 03, 2024
 

Sibling rivalry has been around since the dawn of time, and although siblings may love each other (sometimes one doubts it though!), they often find themselves bickering and fighting. As a parent or guardian, it can be exhausting to manage these conflicts. But don't worry, as someone who has survived the trials of siblinghood, I have some empathetic discipline tips that can help.

It's important to note that every child is unique, each with their own personality and way of dealing with conflict. So, instead of a one-size-fits-all solution, tailor your discipline to fit each child's needs.

It's also essential to remember that fighting is often a symptom of underlying issues. Try to identify the root cause by having a conversation with your children. They might be feeling neglected or jealous of each other, or they could be struggling with their own personal issues. Addressing these underlying issues can go a long way in preventing future fights.

Lastly, lead by example....

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  Tips for Managing Your Emotions When Your Child Has a Meltdown

Uncategorized Jan 23, 2024
 
 

As a parent, you know how overwhelming it can be to manage your child's meltdowns. Although it's tough on your child, it can be even worse for you, especially if it happens frequently. You may experience a range of emotions - anger, sadness, helplessness - and you might feel physically and mentally drained. You may even question your parenting skills.

While you naturally want to help your child deal with their meltdowns, it's equally important to take care of yourself so that you can respond in a calmer way.

Here are some tips to help you manage your emotions when your child has a meltdown:

  • Recognize Your Emotions: Take a moment to identify your emotions and determine why you feel that way. Are you feeling angry, sad, scared, or frustrated? What caused your reaction? (What about the meltdown is making you feel this way?) How are your thoughts, behaviors, and body being affected by your emotions?
  • Express Your Emotions: Find a healthy and appropriate way to...
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What to do when your kid starts hanging out with the wrong crowd?

There's a sense of helplessness when our kids start hanging out with the 'wrong crowd', so to speak. 

 

We get anxious when our innocent sensitive kid gravitates to others who don't have their back. It's painful when your kid disagrees with your assessment.

 

So what's a parent to do? You can't exactly lock them away in a tower for 40 years (tempting). Forcing them to stop hanging out with said scoundrels is probably going to backfire! 

 

You are going to have to play the long game. You'll have to be subtle. A bit sneaky. Strategic. You're going to Trojan Horse the sh** out of this situation (I like to call it a sh*tuation. It presents an opportunity for your relationship to grow stronger over time).

 

The goal is to have the sort of connection with our kids that is predicated upon trust and security. Now. I do not mean trust that they are not going to do something stupid. And I don't mean security like Liam Neeson style parenting (we don't want to use...

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Dealing with teenage rebellion: a brief guide for parents

rebellion teenagers Jan 19, 2024

Teenage rebellion is a common and normal thing that many parents have to face. Teen's rebel for different reasons. And remember their brains have not fully matured, so don't be surprised if you have to face some irrationality with your teen. Perhaps husband's like me have the same problem - i wonder if my brain is fully matured or not.

Rebellion is a way for teens to assert their independence, explore their identity, and test their limits. This is all normal but man, it can be a pain in the arse.

How can parents deal with teenage rebellion effectively and maintain a healthy relationship with their children?

Some tips:

  • Understand the reasons behind the rebellion. Teenage rebellion is not a personal attack on you or a sign of disrespect - though it can feel like that! It is a natural and necessary part of adolescent development. Teens rebel because they want to separate themselves from their parents and establish their own identity - you might not be so cool anymore, Inspite of your...
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Navigating the Digital Age with Empathy: A Guide for Parents

 

The digital age has brought us many wonders, but it has also brought a host of dangers, especially for our children. As parents, we must be the guiding light that illuminates their path. With so many things vying for their attention, how can we connect with them? The key to this is empathy.

Empathy is vital because it fosters trust, which is the foundation of human connection. While much has been said about the cognitive and affective components of empathy, it's important to note the richness of the perceptual aspects of empathy.

To cultivate this often neglected but powerful aspect of empathic connection, we must first understand how to empathize with our children. By doing so, we can create a deeper understanding of their perspectives and feelings. As parents, we can then use this knowledge to provide better guidance and support.

Let me show you how you can start to cultivate this crucial aspect of empathic connection with your children.


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How do I parent my emotionally sensitive child? [A brief guide]

Children who experience intense emotions can be incredibly imaginative, empathetic, and intuitive. They may have heightened awareness of their surroundings but struggle with filtering information. This rich inner life can be both a gift and a challenge for them, especially as their brains are still developing. Big emotions can lead to big behaviors, which can confuse both the child and their parents.

Identifying Traits of Sensitive Children:
  • May experience heightened stress, anxiety and feelings of being overwhelmed.
  • May struggle to cope with change, challenges, and criticism.
  • May have frequent and intense emotional outbursts and difficulty regulating emotions and impulses.
  • May feel isolated, misunderstood, or rejected by peers and have low self-esteem or confidence.

Our emotionally sensitive children need more guidance and support to help them manage their emotions and develop their God given strengths. Obviously this means parents may need to be a lot more patient than they...

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Dealing with your child's tantrums

emotional storms tantrums Dec 21, 2023

Do you ever feel powerless in the face of your child's emotional outbursts? Whether it's in a crowded store or a quiet art gallery, it can be tough to know how to manage when a meltdown occurs.

While confidence may not be the right word to describe how you're feeling, it's critical to remember that the way you treat your child in these moments is what matters most to them. Everyone else is secondary.

Navigating these moments successfully depends on your ability to understand the underlying reasons or factors that led up to the outburst. Even if you don't fully understand them, taking a step back to acknowledge that there are underlying reasons is vital.

I've developed an effective approach to help you navigate these storms. Check out my free on-demand video training at www.huddlewisdom.com/gettools

In episode 086 of the Parenting with Huddle Wisdom podcast, I dive into several important themes that can help you tailor your approach to your child's specific needs. These themes...

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Why is parenting getting tougher?

mental parenting May 01, 2023
 
 

The Challenges of Modern Parenting
Parenting in today's world is becoming increasingly difficult, with several factors contributing to this phenomenon. Here are some of my observations:

  • We have grown accustomed to comfort, which has made the energy required for parenting seem more demanding.
  • Our children are constantly exposed to social media and its influencers, which can be unhealthy. How can parents keep up?
  • Children are pushed towards independence too soon, leading to detachment from their parents and closer connections to their peers.
  • Our desire for more money, freedom, and experiences has increased. We crave quick results and are intolerant of boredom.

To address these issues, we need to take a step back and reset. We must slow down and embrace discomfort. Reconnecting with each other and revisiting the basics is essential.

 Tune in to the Parenting with Huddle Wisdom Podcast to learn more
 
 
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Misbehaviour and root causes. Where there's smoke...there's...🔥

Uncategorized Sep 12, 2022

Understanding Misbehavior: Identifying the Root Cause

When dealing with misbehavior in children, it's important to remember that it's just a symptom of a deeper issue. Instead of focusing solely on the behavior, it's essential to trace it back to its root. In doing so, we can understand the problem and tackle it head-on.

Rather than seeing misbehavior as a problem in itself, think of it as a signal, like smoke, that something is wrong. There may be a misfit between the demands placed on the child and their ability to meet those demands. As parents or educators, our job is to address both the demand and provide the necessary skills to help the child deal with it.

It's important to remember that children, like everyone else, do not intentionally cause trouble for themselves. Therefore, we must step in and provide support to help them overcome the problems they face. Keep in mind that if children could do well, they would do well.

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Stop feeling guilty about setting boundaries with your children!

mental models parenting Aug 31, 2022

 

 Empathy as a Parenting Tool: The Importance of Setting Boundaries

Empathy is a crucial tool in connecting with our children, but it is not synonymous with yielding to their every demand. As adults, it is our responsibility to demonstrate that boundaries must be respected in life, whether these are legal boundaries or simply a person's private space. Although it is natural to feel guilty when a child pushes back against boundaries we set, it is important to avoid caving in, as this is not in anyone's best interest.

Our upbringing can play a significant role in where we draw the line when it comes to rules and boundaries, so it is essential to reflect on our own experiences. Similarly, our children's struggles to come to terms with boundaries are expected and should be anticipated. We need to be prepared for pushback and provide a clear rationale if questioned about certain rules, but we should also not be surprised if our kids whine or complain. Expecting some degree...

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