The Huddle Wisdom Blog: For Parents of Anxious & Sensitive Kids
Expert guidance and real-world reflections from a child psychiatrist whoâs also a parent.
BOOKS: Can Fiction Show us the realities of Parenting?
At times, our existence is so saturated with the hustle and bustle of daily life that it becomes essential to pause and rejuvenate ourselves. Reading, for many of us, serves as a sanctuary, a haven of tranquility. However, we may sometimes grapple with guilt, perceiving this retreat as a form of escapism or a misuse of time.
To address this, Iâve curated a selection of fiction books that impart valuable lessons about parenting. This allows you to indulge in your well-deserved respite, vicariously live through characters unrelated to you, and simultaneously glean insights on enhancing your parenting skills.
Fiction books can be a treasure trove of wisdom, shedding light on the intricacies of parenting and its associated challenges. They offer readers the opportunity to view situations from diverse angles, learn from the experiences of others, and cultivate empathy for a variety of parenting scenarios. Moreover, delving into fiction can serve as an escape, enabling parents
...7 Parenting Books for Anxious Kids : Recommended by a Child and Forensic Psychiatrist
As a child and forensic psychiatrist, Iâve witnessed firsthand the impact of anxiety on our tamariki. Childhood anxiety isnât some distant conceptâitâs a real experience that affects millions of our kids (and even adults). Itâs like a rising tide, threatening to engulf our whÄnau. From separation anxiety to those all-encompassing worries, these emotions can hold our little ones hostage.
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Anxiety isnât just a fancy word; itâs a lived reality for our tamariki. Recent studies show that approximately 1 in 8 children grapple with anxiety-related challenges. These feelings might show up as persistent worry, fear of specific situations, or even physical symptoms like puku aches and headaches. As parents, recognizing these signs early is our superpower.
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WhÄnau like you are the kaitiaki of their childâs emotional landscape. Our responses and actions matterâthey significantly shape how our kids perceive and manage anxiety. By fostering open communication, empathy, and
...Improving Mental Health Services: Lessons from a home visit
Raise your hand, if anyone else here tired of the whining and complaining that the government isn't doing enough for mental health services?
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A few years ago, I made a house call late in the day, responding to a parent of a patient of mine who was unable to attend the clinic due to a minor domestic incident. The atmosphere was tense, like a whirlwind of emotions - thatâs what the phone call felt like. The prescribed medication? It wasnât working as expected. We were in the midst of it, with no choice but to endure. I asked if they could wait till I got there later that day - they agreed and expressed their gratitude. I asked why they didnât call the crisis team - they did - they were advised to call the police (for an 11 year old having a tantrum). Understandably, she did not call the police. As for the rest of the family? I didnât ask.
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Upon arrival, I observed the mother, caught in this storm, unable to connect with the other kids or to prepare dinner.
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đ§ Making Sense of Anxious Kids â Youâre More Equipped Than You Think
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Connecting with anxious or neurodivergent children isnât always easyâespecially when emotions are high and meltdowns seem to come out of nowhere.
In those moments, itâs completely normal to feel overwhelmed. You might even question whether you're getting it right, or feel the weight of guilt creeping in. Maybe you've thought, âAm I doing enough?â or âWhy canât I stay calm?â
But hereâs the truth:
You are not failing.
You are not alone.
And you are more capable than you realize.
The ability to support your child with calm and confidence is already within youâit may just need some encouragement, clarity, and a little practice.
Thatâs why I created (and recently updated) my self-paced audio course:
đ§âŻMaking Sense of Anxious Children
Itâs designed to help you understand whatâs really going on beneath your childâs anxietyâand how to respond with empathy, not exhaustion. Youâll learn practical tools to reduce emotional friction, strengthen your connection, and feel more confiden
...Unveiling Our New T-Shirt Collection: A Nod to the Parenthood Journey
As parents, we often find ourselves in situations that are as chaotic as they are beautiful. We understand that raising children, especially those who are anxious or sensitive, can sometimes feel like a rollercoaster ride. But amidst all the ups and downs, thereâs always room for a little humor and a lot of love.
When I was at university (college for my US audience) I started a t-shirt design company with a friend but life got too busy and I couldn't give it much time to actually get it off the ground. But lately I've felt inspired to resurrect it and designed a couple of t-shirts which I think Huddle Wisdom parents would be proud to wear.
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And I think it encapsulates the sentiments I shared earlier.Â
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These t-shirts, available on Etsy, are not just about style, but also about expressing the shared experiences of parenthood.Â
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1. âEverything is Fineâ T-Shirt
Our first design features the text âEverything is Fineâ accompanied by an image of a serene whale surrounded by
...Games to Enhance Social Skills at Home
Strengthening Connections and Building Social Competence
As parents, we recognise the importance of nurturing our childrenâs social skills. These abilities not only enhance their interactions with others but also contribute to their overall well-being. Whether your child is neurotypical or neurodiverse, engaging in social activities can be both enjoyable and educational.
Role-Playing Conversations: This activity immerses your child in various scenarios, allowing them to step into the shoes of different characters. Theyâll practice active listening and explore various conversational styles, fostering empathy and effective communication skills. Itâs a fun way to experience different perspectives and understand the nuances of conversation.
âWould You Ratherâ Questions: This game is a catalyst for intriguing discussions! By posing thought-provoking questions like, âWould you rather explore outer space or dive into the deep ocean?â your child is encouraged to think creatively, make decis...
The Spiderâs Web: A Metaphor for Mental Health
The Spiderâs Web: A Metaphor for Mental Health
In my garden, a spider spun its web, a marvel of strength and resilience. This sight sparked reflections on our mental health system and the wisdom we could glean from this simple spiderâs web.
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Mental Health Web (MHW): Each strand of the web symbolizes a community stakeholder - parents, schools, neighbours, healthcare professionals, police, community services. Each strand facilitates information flow, fostering a dialogue that permeates in all directions. The web is a collective endeavour, not the work of a solitary spider.
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Independent Nodes: Each strand in the MHW functions autonomously, agilely responding to our communityâs unique needs. This independence allows for quick adaptation, experimentation, and innovation, bypassing the need for central directives.
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Webâs Bulletin Board: A central bulletin board bolsters the webâs independent functioning by facilitating the sharing of successful intervention strategies. Itâ
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The Unforgettable Journey of a Mischievous Student
As I flipped through the worn-out pages of my old school yearbook, a wave of nostalgia washed over me. The memories of those golden days came flooding back, as vivid as if they had happened yesterday. We had a tradition back then, a poem that we wrote together, where each of us got a shout-out for what we were known for. And guess what? My tag was ânaughty and loudââa classic, right?
I was that kidâthe one who always had something to say, the one who couldnât sit still, the one who was always up for a bit of mischief. I even had a VIP seat right up front by Ms. Selby, the teacher who mustâve had the patience of a saint to put up with my antics. Does that sound like someone you know?
Ms. Selby was a gem, though. Her kindness probably kept me from bailing on school altogether. She saw something in me that others didnât. She saw potential amidst the chaos. I bet if it was today, theyâd slap an ADHD label on me in a heartbeat. (I know I would).
And in high school? One of my teache
...Supporting Anxious Neuroatypical Kids at School
Imagine a student who is the epitome of decorum and respect in school, but at home, they transform into a whirlwind of emotions. This scenario is not uncommon for neurodiverse children who often remain unnoticed in educational environments. They are like hidden icebergs, their struggles concealed beneath the surface, invisible to those unfamiliar with their circumstances.
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These children often employ a strategy known as âmaskingâ, where they exert significant mental energy to conceal their difficulties. Sometimes itâs a conscious effort; other times, itâs an instinctive defense mechanism. Their objective? To blend in, to appear ânormalâ, to avoid being singled out.
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Unfortunately, neurodiverse children are more susceptible to mental health issues. So, how can we support them? Letâs delve into some strategies.
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Building Bridges of Empathy
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The first step is fostering open communication between parents and educators. Parents should feel comfortable discussing their chil
...Understanding Neurodiversity: A Parentâs Perspective
As parents, we often traverse the intricate landscape of child-rearing, equipped with a blend of instinct, generational wisdom, and expert guidance. However, when it comes to comprehending neurodiversity, it can feel as though weâre venturing into unknown terrain. This is primarily because neurodiversity, a relatively novel concept, challenges conventional perceptions of neurological development. It encourages us to shift our viewpoint from viewing certain neurological conditions as âdisordersâ to recognising them as merely different ways of perceiving the world.
Understanding neurodiversity can be intimidating due to its extensive scope. It encompasses a broad range of neurological differences, each with its distinct characteristics and challenges. As parents, itâs vital for us to learn about these differences to support our children and advocate for them in various social environments like schools and local communities.
So, What is Neurodiversity?
Neurodiversity is a concept
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